For those who struggle to honor their true selves.
We tend to look outside of our situation in most cases for answers to life’s issues. As I say that I also know that most of us want to be seen for who we are as a person.
My question to this would be, why do we need approval/acceptance from the people around us or the people that maybe are not around us but that from a distance we have decided to respect, or should I say “expect”?
There is no one out there that knows more than we do about who we truly are or what we want and need, but we tend to reach out in expectation of someone either telling us how or what we should do or be. Emulating or learning from someone is fine as long as you don’t also obsess over their approval or recognition.
In my humble opinion that is where we screw up. No one knows those answers better than we ourselves do. Not one other person has lived our life or has experienced, in the same way, what we have. So why is it that we look for certain people’s approval? Might it be that we’re seeking validation? But then, we must understand that the person we’re seeking to emulate or receive praise from has their own agenda… and you might not fit into that! Thus, we bang our heads in frustration… Why NOT me? When is it MY time? See ME!
When we search and long for happiness while we are expecting or wanting another person’s approval, are we not blocking what we seek or should naturally become? No one else knows about us as much as we do! What if we just became who we are, found that happiness and moved forward without worry? Without approval? Wouldn’t doing what we feel is right bring in those who also resonate with who we are?
What if as an awesome individual with all our own answers somewhere inside of ourselves we just became who we are without worrying what anyone else thought about it? Being you without reservation is the BIGGEST gift that you can give to yourself and the world. So, what if you lose a few! You gain “you” and those that love you for exactly who you are.
© 2018 Lisa Bousson
