The enormity of pain parents feel when their child passes away is unfathomable for those of us who haven’t experienced such a tragic and untimely loss. In my work as a medium I often feel the agony the family feels, and I fight to contain my emotions. Please understand that through experience, and learning to control these emotions, doesn’t mean I’m uncaring, or that I don’t have empathy. The truth couldn’t be furthest from this!
I try to remain in control of myself so that I can continue to serve both spirit and you. What good would I be to anyone if I were to allow myself to fall into a puddle of tears? Repressing the emotions does take its toll, however. I feel drained, lethargic, mentally tapped out, and often schedule breaks in my schedule for “Me” days. Me days where I’m not intentionally connecting to the world of spirit because I need the mental break, days when I take care of my emotional, physical, mental and spiritual health.
So, if you know of someone who has lost a child, please empathize with them, but don’t burden them with feeling the need to console YOU. Just be the open door they may need. Allow them to shed their tears openly. Listen with a compassionate year, and open your heart to send them your love.
© 2016 Lisa Bousson
Cheryl Taylor says
Hi Lisa,
Such a timely post as I am surrounded by my brother and his wife who recently lost their 21 year old son (my nephew) unexpectedly and tragically to drugs and my daughter-in-law who just lost her 34 year old brother. Both sets of parents are beyond devastated and their loss affects us all. It’s heartbreaking to watch their agony and know that all I can do is lend a listening ear and a hug. In time, I hope that they will be open to a session with you to help gain some much needed peace and closure as I know that my sister in laws session with you after the loss of her son Dane, helped her so very much. You are truly an angel!
lisa@lisabousson.com says
Hi Cheryl,
My heart just breaks for the enormity of tragic loss your family has had to endure. My prayers are sent out to you and those you hold dear. May you be granted God’s peace and understanding in the coming years, and I pray that with time the cavern in your hearts becomes bearable.
Blessings ~ Lisa
LeFerna Walch says
Lisa,
I would like to thank you again for bringing my spirit family to me with such a wonderful message at the Holistic Pyschic Expo you spoke at early last month. Since my son passed away, he has been talking to me and leading me. I had no idea that I had these gifts. He is bringing forth all my family members who have passed to reassure me that what he is saying to me is real, and what I hear is truth, not grief or craziness. I have been working to put together his “cause” since he died from alcohol and acetaminophen poisoning. After eight years of college drinking, he was an alcoholic and no one knew. He suffered with a failing liver and a hospital that kept making near fatal mistakes with him. He was already going to AA online and planned to do public speaking to warn other students of what they are doing to their livers and their brains. He nearly made it and then developed Sepsis and died of Septic shock, one organ at a time shutting down. It was obvious what was happening to him. He died as an example to other students and now it is up to me to carry out his wishes and teach others. So when you told me that my grandmother was saying my teaching and public speaking was going to be huge… that was the validation I needed. I agree that if everyone that is grieving over the loss of a child, or any loved one for that matter, opens their hearts up to Spirit to know they are still with us, only in another dimenstion, it makes it easier. Thank you again Lisa.
LeFerna